“Chloe” is a two month old baby who cries. Often. Loudly. Although most of the wailing occurs in the late afternoon and early evening, she also cries other times. She eats great and in fact, seems very happy while she feeds. She smiles at her parents mainly in the morning. She also smiles at her ceiling fan and the desk lamp. Movement calms her and her parents worry that she spends excessive time rocking in their arms or in her swing. Her cries pierce through walls and make her parents feel helpless. She often spits up during crying jags, and erupts with gas. She gained weight well since her last visit. Here’s the lesson: All babies cry. All babies pee and poop. All babies sleep (at times). AND: all babies spit up. The muscle in the lower esophagus that keeps our food and drink down in our stomachs and prevents it from sloshing upwards, called the “lower esophageal sphincter,” is loose in all babies. The muscle naturally tightens up and becomes more effective over the first year of life, which is why younger babies tend to spit up more than older babies. Max has GER (gastroesophageal reflux) , Chloe has GER/ colic and Mona has GERD (gastroesophageal reflux disease). Max and Chloe have physiologic, or normal, reflux. Mona has reflux that interferes with her mood, her feedings, and her growth. GER, GERD and colic (excessive crying in an otherwise healthy baby, see our post on this topic) improve by three to four months of age. If your baby cries often (enough to make you cry as well) then you should see your baby’s pediatrician to help determine the cause. It helps, before your visit, to think about when the crying occurs (with feedings? At certain times of the day?), what soothes the crying (feeding? walking/rocking?) and other symptoms that accompany the crying such as spitting up, fever, or coughing. Keeping a three day diary for trends can help pinpoint a diagnosis. We worry a lot when the babies are not “spitting up” but are actually “vomiting.” Spit blobs onto the ground. Vomit shoots to the ground. Vomit which is yellow, is accompanied by a hard stomach, is painful, is forceful (think Exorcist), or enough to cause dehydration, all may be signs of blockage in the belly such as pyloric stenosis or vovulus. Seek medical attention immediately. The treatment for Max, the happy spitter with GER? Lots of bibs for baby and extra shirts for his parents. The treatment for Mona, the baby with GERD? Small, frequent feedings to prevent overload of her stomach, adding cereal to the any bottle feed to help thicken them and weigh down the liquid, thus preventing some of the spit up (ask your doctor if this is appropriate for your baby), holding her upright after feeds for 15-20 minutes, and inclining her crib by putting a thick book under each of 2 crib legs to help her upper body stay higher than her feet which helps her stomach to empty sooner. To prevent Sudden Infant death Syndrome, she should still be placed on her back to sleep. Sometimes, pediatricians prescribe medication that decreases the acid content of the stomach to help relieve the pain of stomach contents refluxing into the esophagus. Treatment for Chloe, the crier? Patience and tincture of time. You can’t spoil a young baby, so hold, rock and sway with her to keep her calm. Enlist a baby sitter or grandparents to help. Treatment for parents? Knowing that someday your baby will grow up, no longer need a bib, and probably have a baby who spits up too. ©2012 Two Peds in a Pod® 
Category: Babies
Dad to Dad: Parenting Like a Pro
Just in time for Father’s Day— the book Dad to Dad: Parenting Like a Pro. Written by our pediatrician colleague, Dr. David Hill, this North Carolina based Pediatrician brings a humorous, yet practical perspective on fatherhood. His book includes chapters on nontraditional parenting relationships, talking to kids about sexual development and helping your child sleep. Two Peds in a Pod is pleased to give you a sneak peek:
Summer time reading: crypto, poison ivy, swimmer’s ear, and preventing dehydration
Welcome to summer! Some seasonal topics to read up on: a germ that lurks in pool water, itchy rashes from poison ivy, painful ears from swimmer’s ear and how to prevent kids from dehydrating.
Julie Kardos, MD and Naline Lai, MD
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Limiting BPA and other potential toxins in your child’s environment
Guest blogger pediatrician Heidi Román returns to us today to give practical advice on how to decrease potential toxins in your child’s environment.One last thought. Many products are actually very safe. The trouble is, right now it is really hard to know which ones are okay for children and which ones aren’t. Parents have enough to worry about. Let’s give some of the responsibility regarding unsafe chemical exposures back where it belongs- to the industries producing chemicals and the regulatory agencies designed to keep our communities safe. And, for now, a few easy changes at home can keep toxic stuff away from your kids and help keep them safe and healthy.Heidi Román, MD
Heidi Román MD, FAAP is a mother and pediatrician who practices in San Jose, California. She has special interest and experience in public policy issues and working with under-served families from diverse racial and socio-economic backgrounds. Find her thoughtful blog posts at
Air on the side of caution: Is your child having difficulty breathing?
Early childhood educators wear many hats. Not only do they teach, but also they are often called on to give medical attention to their students. Last week we shared with early childhood teachers at the Delaware Valley Association for the Education of Young Children’s 2012 Early Childhood Conference the signs a child is in respiratory trouble. Although we focused on asthma, these signs of respiratory difficulty may be present in a variety of illnesses such as pneumonia.
- Breathing faster than normal
- Your child’s nostrils flare with each breath in an effort to extract more oxygen from the air
- Your child’s chest or her belly move dramatically while breathing—lift up her shirt to appreciate this
- Your child’s ribs stick out with every breath she takes because she is using extra muscles to help her breathe—again, lift up her shirt to appreciate this. We call these movements retractions
- Grunting sound (a slight pause followed by a forced grunt/whimper) or a wheeze sound at the end of each exhalation
- A baby may refuse to breast feed or bottle feed because the effort required to breathe inhibits her ability to eat
- An older child might experience difficulty talking
- Your child may appear anxious as she becomes “air hungry” or alternatively she might seem very tired, exhausted from the effort to breathe.
- Your child is pale or blue at the lips
In this video, the child uses extra chest muscles in order to breath. He tries so hard to pull air into his lungs that his ribs stick out with each inhalation.
For those with sensitive asthma lungs, review our earlier asthma posts. Understanding Asthma Part I explains asthma and lists common symptoms of asthma and Understanding Asthma Part II tells how to treat asthma, summarizes commonly used asthma medicine, and offers environmental changes to help control asthma symptoms.
Julie Kardos, MD and Naline Lai, MD
©2012, links updated 2015, Two Peds in a Pod®
Mother’s Day: thoughts to nosh on
My youngest child clambered off the bus Friday afternoon with a fixed grin across his face.
“What are you doing here?” he asked curiously. Usually, I am not home in time to greet the afternoon bus.
“I came to walk you home from the bus stop and then go for a run,” I said beaming, and kissed him on the forehead.
As my son stiffly kissed me back, the strange fixed grin remained on his face. Then I noticed his hands were behind his back. With a sly glance, I saw he clutched a crinkled brown paper bag. I smiled. Hidden crumpled paper bags close to Mother’s Day mean only one thing — a “surprise” gift.
“Don’t you want to go running now?” my son asked as we walked up our driveway, carefully rotating his body so that he continued to face me.
“Yes, good idea” I said, and resisted the temptation to look back.
As I jogged through the neighborhood, I mused over the upcoming holiday and what it meant to be a “happy” mother on mother’s day. Last week I had gained some insights after participating on a panel at Brown University’s Women’s Leadership Conference. The topic of the discussion was “Happy Kids/Happy Parents: What’s the Secret Sauce?” The talk was lively, and since it was a women’s conference, discussion focused on motherhood. Ultimately the conclusion made by moderator Clare Hare was “There is not one right way to parent,” but, perhaps, some good guidelines. Here are some ideas to think about:
On the dilemma of working outside the house vs. working full time as a mom at home: As a mom it is easy to give, give, and give so much of yourself to others that you can lose a little (or a lot) of your own self-identity. By maintaining a self-identity you become a more confident mother. Some women draw confidence from forging a career outside the home. Others draw from organizing local community-based activities. A mom ultimately needs to feel at the end of the day that she raised her own child, no matter how she does it. Stop comparing yourself to others and do what is right for your own family. In an economy where it is often not financially feasible for one partner to stay at home, working outside the home may be less of a choice and more of an obligation; however, the crucial point remains— if you are not the person you want your child to see, then become the person you want her to see.
On helicopter parenting: Worried that you are too much of a helicopter parent? Know where to draw the line. Use the “cry now or cry later” philosophy. If you know your child will be crying in 30 years when he is obese and diabetic because you didn’t insist on a healthy diet with limited “junk”, stand your ground and let him cry now and you refuse him a second helping of cake. If you know your child will NOT be crying in 30 years because you didn’t insist that he continue piano lessons, let it go.
On keeping you and your child sane during the college admission process: Yes, statistically it’s tougher than ever to get into colleges- this is a matter of demographics. There are more college-bound seniors because of population growth, and hence more applicants per spot. But the pressure for students to overextend themselves in multiple activities is imposed by parents and the kids themselves, not by the admission offices. In the years preceding applying to college, encourage your child to concentrate on excelling in specific areas—think quality not quantity. Do what comes from the heart. When your child seems overwhelmed, as Dr. Kardos and I always say, insure basic needs are met — eat, sleep, drink, pee and poop. And don’t forget to leave time for play and relaxation.
On ignoring hype: Be willing to change your opinion in light of data. Use evidence, not hype, to drive your actions. Despite data showing teens naturally awaken later in the morning than younger children, one audience member recounted how she still encountered many difficulties when she advocated for later high school start times in her school district.
All thoughts to nosh on.
You never realize the soaring magnitude of your own mother’s love until you meet your child. No matter your approach to raising children, we wish you “happy” as you remember how you felt when you were the child who brought home a brown crinkled paper bag to surprise your own mom. And again “happy” as you feel gratitude and awe for the privilege of now receiving the surprise.
Dr. Kardos and I wish you a Happy Mother’s Day.
Naline Lai, MD
Special thanks to my fellow panelists: Clare Hare, Principle of Clare Hare Design; Jill Hereford Caskey, Director, Alumni College Advising Program, Office of Alumni Relations, Brown University; Judith Owens , Director of Sleep Medicine, Children’s National Medical Center; Peg Tyre, Director of National Advocacy, Edwin Gould Foundation, author of The Trouble With Boys and The Good School.
© 2012 Two Peds in a Pod®
It’s Tummy Time! Taming tummy time torture
My oldest child hated tummy time. Miserable, she would flail on the floor and wail like a marooned walrus. Although she eventually learned to tolerate it for periods of time, she disliked time on her belly so much, she skipped the developmental milestone of flipping over from her back to her belly and went straight to sitting upright.
How can you get started? Try these ways to do “tummy time” with your baby.
1. Belly to belly with your baby
3. Lap play
Dr. Stack has been a physical therapist for over 15 years and heads The Pediatric Therapy Center of Bucks County in Pennsylvania www.buckscountypeds.com. She holds both masters and doctoral degrees in physical therapy from Thomas Jefferson University.
Why is my baby’s head flat? Positional plagiocephaly
Squeezed through the birth canal, many babies are born with pointy, cone-shaped heads. Others, delivered by caesarian section, start off life with round heads. No baby begins with a flat head. But as parents put babies on their backs to sleep in accordance with Sudden Infant Death Syndrome prevention guidelines, babies are developing flat heads.
Called positional plagiocephaly, a young infant’s head flattens when prolonged pressure is placed on one spot. Tricks to prevent positional plagiocephaly all encourage equal pressure over the entire head. Because babies’ heads are malleable, parents can easily prevent and treat the flatness. In fact, the flat shape begins to correct itself after six months of age, when babies spend less time lying down and more time sitting and crawling. Additionally, increased hair growth hides some of the flatness.
To prevent positional plagiocephaly, place your baby prone (belly down) frequently WHILE AWAKE, starting in the newborn period. This tummy time decreases pressure on the back of the head. Some babies are not fond of tummy time and will cry until they are back on their backs. For those kids, in our next post, guest blogger physical therapist Deborah Stack will address ways to make the time tolerable.
Some babies wear helmets to correct their abnormal head flattening. Neurosurgeons, who are head and brain specialists, prescribe these helmets for babies who have extreme flattening. Fortunately, the majority of babies with positional plagiocephaly do not need to wear helmets.
You also may have heard of babies who need corrective surgery for an abnormal head shape. This condition, called craniosynostosis, is rare. Pediatricians monitor the size and shape of the head and check the soft spot on the top of the head at every check-up. A baby’s skull develops in pieces as a fetus, and these pieces eventually come together at predictable places called sutures. If the pieces come together too early or the soft spot closes too soon, corrective surgery must be performed.
Julie Kardos, MD and Naline Lai, MD
©2012 Two Peds in a Pod®
Potty Talk: the “Scoop On Poop” on philly.com
We’re pleased to bring to the Greater Phildaelphia Area our “Scoop on Poop” post which was published in the Healthy Kids blog for Philadelphia Inquirer’s philly.com.
Although many can not talk about the topic without snickering, face it. “Poop” is an essential of life. If pooping gets thrown off, everything gets thrown off. The kid who won’t poop in the potty sets everyone else in the household off kilter, and leads to bribes, threats and chaos. A constipated kid is a grumpy kid. Constipation can lead to tantrums, refusal to eat, and even an inability to fall asleep. If you still have have infant and toddler poop questions, check out our podcast on potty training and our post “When potty training gets hard: constipation.” On a related topic, please also visit our post “It’s a Gas, your young infant’s burps and farts.”
Until you are a parent, you can never fully appreciate the fierce desire for “everything to come out okay in the end.”
Julie Kardos, MD and Naline Lai, MD
©2012 Two Peds in a Pod®
Portable Parent: baby advice texted to your cell

Since most cell carriers participate, even people in the United States without a text plan can get messages for free. If you have a text limit per month, text4baby won’t take away from that limit. Look at www.text4baby.org for more information.
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